Polyamorous Relational Therapy
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”― Rumi
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”― Rumi
Imagine a Relationship in Which You Feel Whole Without Having to Sacrifice Connection.
Polyamorous relationships for many can feel like finding the missing piece to their relationship puzzle, providing a sense of wholeness and fulfillment that might have been elusive in monogamous dynamics. However, this liberating journey is not without its challenges, requiring not only exceptional organizational and communication skills but also a generous reserve of energy.
Unlike the unspoken rules of traditional relationships, polyamory requires crystal-clear agreements that are intentionally crafted, mutually accepted, and adaptable to change. It’s all about expressing desires without sacrificing connections.
If you can relate to any of these you have come to the right place!
Communication Struggles: Without a roadmap of clearly defined agreements, misunderstandings flourish. Broken promises are a common woe, eroding trust and relationship security. Consent becomes a minefield—ethical consent needs to be active and collaborative, or else it’s a recipe for disaster.
Time Management Woes: Juggling multiple relationships without a solid plan often leads to feelings of neglect and relationship breakdowns. Quality time is key, but vague agreements on time commitments can lead to disappointment. Flexibility is crucial, as life’s unpredictability requires collaborative recalibration.
The Green-Eyed Monster (Jealousy): Enter new relationships or deepening connections, and jealousy can rear its ugly head. It’s the fear of being replaced, of not being good enough. Jealousy demands self-awareness and self-compassion; tackling it means acknowledging and resolving inner conflicts. Compersion, the poly term for finding joy in your partner’s joy, becomes the antidote to fear and insecurity, a fearless embrace of love’s diverse expressions.
How Counseling can ACTUALLY help?
Polyamorous relationships offer unique opportunities for self-development, and relational counseling can guide you in identifying and effectively leveraging these chances for growth and connection.
Relational counseling serves as a compass to untangle complexities, slow things down, and pinpoint where things went wrong. You’ll gain evidence-based tools to deepen your understanding of both your and your partner’s defensiveness within the context of your distinct relational dynamic.
We’ll pinpoint sources of attachment wounds, and identify unique opportunities for healing and connection that often manifest in polyamorous relationships.
We will work together to unravel perspectives and be empowered to authentically show up in the relationship. It challenges you to become a healthier version of yourself, fostering a more genuine connection.
These strategies pave the way for you to establish and maintain clearer, healthier boundaries, creating an environment where your relationship can thrive.
How it Works
Still feeling a bit uncertain? That is perfectly normal. Let me walk you through what the first few sessions typically look like.
Session 1 & 2: Let’s Dive In!
- To kick it off you will both have the opportunity to share your thoughts about the relationship issues. I will challenge you both to reflect on your own contributions to these issues as well because in order for growth to flourish you both have to create a different environment in order to expect different results.
- I will ask you both a series of questions designed to quickly gather an overview of the relationship. We will discuss strengths, weaknesses and important elements of your relationship present and past.
- We will spend some time talking about each of your upbringings and how communication was handled in your house growing up. Often these early experiences inform of us what a relationship should and shouldn’t be so they are important to understand.
- You will participate in a “conflict discussion” in which you pick a topic that holds some tension for you both and you will engage in a discussion about it for 15 to 20 minutes so I can observe how you work through conflict.
Session 3: Let’s Make a Plan
- Once I have gathered all this information we will work together to create a personalized action plan to address the goals you are hoping to achieve.
Following Sessions: Getting Traction
- As we progress, real-life issues will become opportunities to practice your new skills.
- Once you’ve mastered the basics, we’ll venture into more advanced techniques, empowering both of you to better understand each other and fortify your bond. This journey is about growth and connection, and I’m here to support you every step of the way.
